Being Single Sucks, Here’s What You and God Can Do about it.
Look, I know you are a beautiful daughter of God who wants nothing more than to start a good Christian family and raise up little disciples.
I know because that’s all I ever wanted as a young adult and it was the one thing that seemed the furthest out of my reach.
After having a high school sweetheart for all four years of school I went off to college only to be single for the large chunk of my young adult years. I felt like I had missed out! I peaked too soon romantically! I watched all my friends pair up and graduate college with a degree and with the person they would eventually marry.
It is hard being the unmarried friend when everyone else is already wifed up! What about you? The perpetually single one!? The childless one!? That’s a whole other kind of limbo you’re stuck in all by yourself.
But guess what, you don’t HAVE TO be stuck there. What if I told you I spent my single years figuring out how to not just make it through those rocky years but actually THRIVING in them and dare I say: Enjoying them???
In this blog post, I am going to tell you the number one thing I did to stop wishing away my single years and living them to the fullest so you can make the same mental switch I did!
Here it is. You ready?
These two verses from Eccelsiasties change my life:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens….He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”
The KEY to finding joy in my single years was realizing that they were not all God had in store for me. Being single was the SEASON of life I was in. It was not my end all or be all. It was not who I WAS or who I would always be but just a season.
And we all know that Seasons Change. Seasons are temporary. Seasons come and go.
Ok. I had that part. And maybe you get that too. Maybe being single is just a season but why, oh why does it have to be such.a long.and.painful one!?!?
But did you catch that second verse?
God has made EVERYTHING beautiful in its time. He has, he can, and he will make everything beautiful.
Yes, even the pain of being a bridesmaid for the 10,000th time can be beautiful with the help of God, our Father.
I know because he did it for me, and he can do it for you too.
The single-season doesn’t have to be a waste of 4, 5, 10 years of your life. What if it was a fleeting time, a time you will look back on fondly one day? What if you start embracing it for the beautiful but temporary phase of your life that it most likely is?
Now I’m not saying I know what God has planned for you but if the desire for marriage and family is on your heart, God likely has it there for a reason. He has not forgotten you in this season. Instead, he has BEAUTIFUL things in store for you.
If you want to learn more about making this season of singleness a beautiful time in your life check out some of the posts below:
