Are you Wasting Your Motherhood?
Motherhood should make you HOLIER not CRAZIER.
If your life as a mother is making you feel overwhelmed, stressed out, and generally like you’re going to lose your mind…
You’re wasting the opportunity God gave you to grow in Holiness.
I know that sounds harsh. But hear me out.
Being a mother is a VOCATION that we are called to by God. Your vocation is more than just your job, it's the path that God has called you to in order to make you holier so you can see him again in Heaven.
God called you to be a mother because he knew the specific challenges of motherhood would be like iron sharpening you in EXACTLY the way you need to be sharpened and shaped.
The challenges of motherhood are a GOOD thing…but so often moms everywhere feel like the challenges are so big and so many that we can’t handle it all. OR you feel like the only way to handle it all is to lose yourself in the process.
None of that is part of God’s plan for your holiness, I promise you!
He did not call you to this life to leave you drowning in stress and responsibilities! If we accept stress as the norm, if we accept overwhelm as the norm, if we accept burn out as the norm, then we are fully living our vocation the way God intended.
Our Vocation should be making us BETTER not BITTER!
But why doesn't it seem like that’s the case? And how do we move from bitter to better?
Here’s how I did it:
First: I thought about what type of Mom I wanted to be and what type of mom I did NOT want to be.
I knew I didn’t want to waste time wishing away seasons or stages of being a mom. I wanted to get the most out of every stage!
I knew I didn’t want to make my kids feel like a burden simply for having needs only I could meet.
I knew I didn’t want to make motherhood martyrdom. I wanted to GAIN things from motherhood not lose it all!
Getting a vision of where you want to be is SO important! My tools can help you craft your vision.
Second: Get real about how you can meet your vision
Once I got clear on a vision for motherhood I knew a high stress job that demanded odd hours and over 40 a week was not compatible with my vision.
It took a lot of time for me to come to terms with that truth but once I did I began to prioritize my vision, my goals, my needs over everything else and that felt GOOD, and right. This helped me to approach my call to be a mother with confidence because I had finally admitted to myself, and everyone else, how deeply serious I was about giving my all to this vocation.
Maybe for you getting real means saying YES to more things but for me I had to learn to say NO to the urgent to make room for what was most important. Find out how I did it here.
Third: I adopted a Rule of Life
A Rule of Life is simply a set guide to how you want to specifically approach each day so that you are intentionally living your vocation.
It was made popular by St. Benedict in the 6th century when St. Benedict noticed the monks of the time struggled with moderation in working, serving, and praying.
Can you imagine? An unmarried monk with no job and no family needed help banacing their daily life. Why wouldn’t busy moms need the same guidelines to our days?
When I adopted a Rule of Life everything changed and I began to have less chaotic and overwhelming days. Now my days are ordered toward mine and my family's ultimate Good. Everything has its place in our life from house work, prayer time, to me time!
I know that you don’t have time to research a Rule of Life, let alone craft one on your own without any guidance. My tool makes it easy and accessible – you can start today and wake up tomorrow with more energy and centeredness to your day.
Those three things are what helped me to seize the opportunity God have given me when he called me to be a mother! And I’ve never looked back.
God wants you to be HOLIER and HAPPIER! I want that for you too! You are a daughter of the one true king and you deserve to make the most out of every opportunity He gives you!
